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     Hailing from the spring State of Osun, Temitope Ajayi was born and grew up in Lagos. He is a regular source for Entertainments, Sports, Lifestyles and many more, his blog continues to attract many visitors on daily basis.
Temitope Ajayi is currently the Online Editor of Instinct Wave, a company based in Lagos.
     In this exclusive interview with ADEBAYO CROWNFAME, Temitope shares his aspirations and what motivates him most in life.
     I caught up with Temitope Ajayi recently and we had a very interesting chat.   Temitope Ajayi is friendly and easy going and I had the best laugh I've never had for a long time. Below are excerpts from a free wheeling conversation with him:

1. Can you tell us a little about yourself, your aspirations and your hobbies?

    I'm a fun loving guy, an easy going as well, so quite, and cool headed. My aspirations are to take my blog to greater height and to do things which is so unique in life. Things that anyone has not yet come up with or anyone has never done in this life. My hobbies are tweeting, singing, playing musical instruments, driving, traveling and playing snooker.

2. How did you discover blogging?

¤    First and foremost, I have to mention this... I'm so grateful to my best friend Oladapo Giwa Daramola. He was the one that introduced me to blogging. He assisted me to open the blog site, and directed me to where I sourced for contents and many more. That was how I started blog designing and anything pertaining to internet.

3. So what really inspired you to start your own blog?

¤    Well... Let me say this. .. I felt jealous whenever I opened Linda Ikeji's blogsite because she is doing wonders on her site. So I can say that Linda inspired me.

4. How did you grow up?

¤    Wow! That is a sad question to answer...but I will answer it perfectly. My growing up was a matter of life and death. I grew up with many people in Lagos, Ogun and Ekiti States respectively.
My mother died when I was two years old. She died when she was about to give birth to my younger brother... So they both died together. Since then, I have been living from one family member to the other, with the consent of my father... Though he is very lovely but a busy man to the core.  He traveled always, so he had to leave me with one of my family members to take care of me.
When I was in JSS 2, my father died due to a brief illness. Since then, I have been staying with my grandmother and other family members, so I could not easily go to one creche school to graduate, I went to four schools for my creche alone, two schools for my Nursery and Primary Education and also two schools for my secondary education. My tertiary school... I attended two schools already but had to drop out because of financial issues... But I thank God... Here I am today.

5. How did you cope growing up as an orphan?

¤    I thank God for the kind of family members I have... They have all been so supportive... Even my friends' family members also assisted me financially. These people also assisted me through prayers, advice and so on. I will say... Glory be to God.

6. Tell me about some of the people you have met while working on your blog?

¤    I haven't really met people that much... I will say you are the third person that has appreciated my efforts on blogging. I received comments on facebook and twitter, and this has kept me going from strength to strength.

7. What motivates you most in life?

¤    What motivates me in life are mostly how I see people doings in the wrong way...me trying to correct those things in my own perspective and also striving for the best in life.

8. Can you share one quote or saying you love, that keeps you going in life?

¤    "Strive for the best" and "In everything you are doing, don't give up, when you are thinking about giving up, think about why you started it in the first place"

9. What do you do when you are not working on your blog?

¤    Either listening to music or watching movies.

10. Do you run the blog alone or do you have other people in your team?

¤    I run the blog alone . In future, I may have a team.

11. Where do you see yourself in the next One year?

¤    I see my blogsite being one of the best sites and thousands of people viewing my blog daily.

12. Do you ever think you will one day get bored or tired of blogging?

¤    No... I will never get bored or tired of blogging because its what I love doing. Its my passion.

13. What is the best thing a blogger can give to his readers?

¤   Information about things I think. There is a saying that "Information is power" so I strongly believe in information.

14. What has made the biggest impact good or bad on you?

¤    I will say being gentle and easy going.

15. Five adjectives that describe you?

¤    Cool headed, Hardworking, Easy going, Fun loving and Prayerful.

16. Name some of the bloggers who you look up to and why?

Linda Ikeji, Miss Petite and Date 360 because of their commitments into the blogs and also their persistence.

17. Where do you source for news?

¤    TMZ, Naijapals i.e Gistimania, Naija News and newsletter from Date 360 blog.

18. How old are you really, Temitope?

¤    I'm 25 years Old. I was born on 11th Jan 1989.

19. Some people think you're older

¤   (Laughs) No am not ooo.... I'm still a kokolo boy ooo

20. What helps you to sleep at night?

¤ Most times reading and watching movies.

21. What do you do for fun?

¤ Listening to music, playing snooker, watching movies etc.

22. What else do you do apart from blogging?

¤ I work with a company named Instinct Wave. I am the Company Online Editor.

23. Words for me and my blogs www.crownfame.peperonity.com and Adebayo Crownfame's Interview Box.

¤ Be the best you can be and don't give up in your doings.

24. If a kid walked up to you asking for your advice and you only had a few minutes to spend. What would be your advice?

¤ Always let God be the first in everything you do and strive for the best.

25. Words for your readers and why they should follow you?

¤ Be good to all and be prayerful. Follow me and read my blog because you will always get the latest news and gists all over the world there.

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One of the most common questions we’re asked is by people who don’t know how to act around their crush. Maybe they get nervous and shy, or become extra clingy. With any crush, the goal is always to become more, and the only way you’re going to do that is if you know how to act like a normal person around them! Here are our tips!
1. First of all, take a deep breath. No matter how much you like someone or how intimidating they are, remember one important thing-they are a person just like you. They aren’t perfect specimens to be worshipped, no matter how hot they are. And most importantly, remember how awesome YOU are, and how lucky they would be to even talk to you for ten minutes. Once you switch your thinking to this kind of mindset, it will be a lot easier to interact with the object of your affection.
2. If your problem is that you just don’t know what to say or how to strike up a conversation with your crush, start small. Think of anything that you have in common with them and make the most out of it. If you’re at school, ask a question about a class you share or if you have mutual friends, bring up something about them. The goal is to establish a bond and a jumping off point. From here, based on their response, you can steer the conversation to different topics. A long, heart to heart convo might not happen overnight, especially if you are virtual strangers.
3. Use technology as your wing man. These days, we’re all connected whether we like it or not. This means that your crush is probably your friend on Facebook, or you follow them on Twitter or instagram. Interacting with someone from behind a computer screen is a lot less stressful than walking up to them out of the blue. Start making your digital presence known. “Like” some of their photos and comment on a status or two. Retweet things that they say online that you like. Or, if you’re feeling particularly ballsy shoot them an email or say hello on g-chat. Sometimes you’ve got to be a bit aggressive to be noticed these days!
4. Take no for an answer. There’s being aggressive and then there is being annoying and psycho. If you try reaching out to your crush online and they don’t respond after a few attempts, or they delete or block you, back off. If you’ve tried reaching out to them in person and they always cut the conversation short, they might be trying to tell you that they aren’t interested.
5. SMILE. You know when you like someone so much that sometimes you act like you hate them? Yeah. Don’t do that. I know you’re nervous and you didn’t mean to ignore them when they smiled at you, or that you were too freaked out when they called you to answer the phone, but you’ve got to take control over your nerves. When you treat your crush like crap, they aren’t going to know it’s because you are secretly madly in love with them…they are going to think you can’t stand them. Smile, remain open and calm and stop playing games. You’ll get much better results with your crush when you keep it real.
Good luck!
- Source: welovedates.com

One of the most common questions we’re asked is by people who don’t know how to act around their crush. Maybe they get nervous and shy, or become extra clingy. With any crush, the goal is always to become more, and the only way you’re going to do that is if you know how to act like a normal person around them! Here are our tips!
1. First of all, take a deep breath. No matter how much you like someone or how intimidating they are, remember one important thing-they are a person just like you. They aren’t perfect specimens to be worshipped, no matter how hot they are. And most importantly, remember how awesome YOU are, and how lucky they would be to even talk to you for ten minutes. Once you switch your thinking to this kind of mindset, it will be a lot easier to interact with the object of your affection.
2. If your problem is that you just don’t know what to say or how to strike up a conversation with your crush, start small. Think of anything that you have in common with them and make the most out of it. If you’re at school, ask a question about a class you share or if you have mutual friends, bring up something about them. The goal is to establish a bond and a jumping off point. From here, based on their response, you can steer the conversation to different topics. A long, heart to heart convo might not happen overnight, especially if you are virtual strangers.
3. Use technology as your wing man. These days, we’re all connected whether we like it or not. This means that your crush is probably your friend on Facebook, or you follow them on Twitter or instagram. Interacting with someone from behind a computer screen is a lot less stressful than walking up to them out of the blue. Start making your digital presence known. “Like” some of their photos and comment on a status or two. Retweet things that they say online that you like. Or, if you’re feeling particularly ballsy shoot them an email or say hello on g-chat. Sometimes you’ve got to be a bit aggressive to be noticed these days!
4. Take no for an answer. There’s being aggressive and then there is being annoying and psycho. If you try reaching out to your crush online and they don’t respond after a few attempts, or they delete or block you, back off. If you’ve tried reaching out to them in person and they always cut the conversation short, they might be trying to tell you that they aren’t interested.
5. SMILE. You know when you like someone so much that sometimes you act like you hate them? Yeah. Don’t do that. I know you’re nervous and you didn’t mean to ignore them when they smiled at you, or that you were too freaked out when they called you to answer the phone, but you’ve got to take control over your nerves. When you treat your crush like crap, they aren’t going to know it’s because you are secretly madly in love with them…they are going to think you can’t stand them. Smile, remain open and calm and stop playing games. You’ll get much better results with your crush when you keep it real.
Good luck!
- Source: welovedates.com

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Of course, women tend to associate s*x with a variety of positive feelings: fun, happiness, and love. Unfortunately, for some women, s*x can also be associated with discomfort or even pain. Some women may even try to hide or mask the pain because they fear it can be interpreted as a lack of enthusiasm, excitement, or affection for their partner. In fact, pain during or after s*x is a common issue for many women and can be caused by multiple factors. Dr. Lissa Rankin, gynecologist and author of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend, explains that pain associated with s*x “doesn’t necessarily mean anything is wrong, but it’s clearly not as right as it should be.” So how do we improve things under the covers? We can start by understanding why this discomfort may be occurring. “If you’re trying to have intercourse when you’re not aroused, lack of lubrication can cause friction and lead to pain. Even if you are aroused, decreased lubrication caused by hormonal deficiencies (such as atrophic vaginitis, which can occur when estrogen levels are low after menopause or while breastfeeding) can lead to pain,” Dr. Rankin explains. There are other, more common reasons, too. “Some other common causes of pain during intercourse include gynecologic conditions such as vulvar vestibulitis (inflammation of the vestibular glands at the vaginal opening), vaginismus (involuntary contractions of the vaginal muscles that may make intercourse impossible), and vulvodynia (non-specific vulvar pain, which is often experienced as an intense burning feeling.” While most women experience pain during or after s*xual intercourse every so often, it doesn’t necessarily have to become a fact of life. There are several over-the-counter remedies that can prove to be very effective. “Inadequate lubrication can be remedied with s*xual lubricants, such as Astroglide or KY Jelly,” Dr. Rankin suggests. Some alternative non-medical treatments that can be taken to prevent or sooth friction during intercourse include: · Using natural lubricants like coconut oil or olive oil (Dr. Rankin notes that coconut oil should be used with caution, as it can break down condoms) · Taking sitz baths to relieve discomfort after s*x.
Trying different s*xual positions
Since it takes two to tango, there are also important steps one’s s*xual partner can take to alleviate discomfort during intercourse. Asking your partner to experiment with a few new methods if perfectly acceptable and could actually turn out to enhance the experience for both parties! Dr. Rankin suggests that men make sure their partners are adequately aroused before intercourse is attempted.
Experiment with positions and who’s ‘in control.’ While the methods mentioned here may help (and we hope they do!), some more serious causes of pain during s*x could warrant the attention of your friendly neighborhood gynecologist. “If you lack lubrication because of hormonal reasons, vaginal estrogen, when used appropriately is life-saving and safe, but you’ll need a prescription, so talk to your gynecologist,” suggests Dr. Rankin. “If you’re suffering from other conditions, such as vulvar vestibulitis, vaginismus, or vulvodynia see your doctor. These conditions can be treated with things like Xylocaine jelly, antihistamines, vaginal dilators, pelvic physical therapy, and other options. Just remember, nobody should have to suffer during s*x. It’s supposed to be fun!” As most women can attest, anything out of the ordinary occurring ‘down there’ is alarming and can produce anxiety – still, it can be extremely difficult to overcome shyness or embarrassment one may feel over discussing this subject, even with a medical professional. Dr. Rankin advises that it’s truly better to be safe than sorry. “Any recurring pain during s*x should be investigated by a gynecologist. s*x is not supposed to hurt, and there’s almost always a way to improve things. So don’t be afraid to ask for help!” Source: galtime.com

Getting attention of the guy you are interested in can be a bit tricky, especially if you don’t use your looks. Looks are not everything and personality is much more important than looks. Although guys are highly visual creatures, most of them understand that a woman has a personality attached to her face and her body. If you notice a nice guy, but you think you don’t look your best to get him to like you, try these seven ways to attract a guy without using your looks.
1. Don’t avoid him
If you are not around, you won’t get his attention. Don’t avoid the places where he usually spends his time. For example, if he works at a local cafe, don’t avoid that cafe, instead visit it occasionally to see him and attract him. However, don’t visit this cafe too often, otherwise you might come across as a ‘creeper’ and he might run away from you.
2. Give him attention
If you want to attract a guy without using your looks, you should give him attention. Sure, it doesn’t mean that you have to shower your crush with compliments; a few compliments will be enough to show him you are interested in him. If the guy walks past you, give him attention. If you are not brave enough to start a conversation, just make eye contact or give him a flirty, cute smile.
3. Be confident
If you start a conversation with the guy you like, try to stay confident when you chat. Although everybody knows what it feels like to be a little nervous when speaking to a person you like, men gravitate towards a woman who acts like she knows what she is doing. Your confidence can help attract the guy you like without showing your skin.
4. Be yourself
You should be yourself in every situation, especially when you are trying to attract the guy without using your looks. If you like talking about a certain celeb or about your hobby, don’t be afraid to talk about them. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, it won’t do any good. Always be yourself and you will definitely get his attention.
5. Be friendly
If you can’t approach the guy to chat, try talking to the people around him. If he doesn’t hear you speak, you won’t attract him without your beautiful face and body. When your crush is around, be friendly to others. He will see what a wonderful girl you are. Moreover, he might start a conversation with you and ask you on a date.
6. Laugh
I don’t mean you should laugh at everything you hear or see, but laughter is an amazing sound and it can help you attract the guy you like. Guys like to be around fun and happy women who know how to enjoy life to the fullest. If the guys sees you laugh at something interesting, he will notice how fun you are, and he can even approach you first. Your smile can impress him too.
7. Wear perfume with a delicious scent
Finally, last but not least way to attract a man without using your looks is to wear perfume with an amazing scent, which will capture his attention. If he likes this scent, he will automatically think of you each time he smells it in the future. This is one of the most effective ways to stay on man’s mind, especially when you are not around.
While your beautiful face and lean legs can attract that guy faster, your personality can do it too. If he doesn’t like your personality, move on, he is not for you. You need a man who will care about you no matter your looks. Do you know any other ways to attract a guy without using your looks?

It is easy tolose spark when facing various challenges in life.
Nowadays many people feel tired and exhausted due to stress, losing job or overload. If your partner is facing hard times, then you will have a great role to support them and help find the way out. If you really love your significant other, you should do your best to boost their confidence and motivate them when they feel down. Show your love and care for them to understand that they are not alone. You should be ready to deal with nervousness, because when we have problems we usually turn emotional and lose stability. Here are 7 tips on how to motivate your loved one to handle the situation and become strong again.
1. Suggest small steps
Sometimes the way to your dreams can be long and complicated. You can find the goal unachievable, because of unexpected challenges and obstacles that arise along the journey. If your beloved doesn’t know what to do, where to begin or how to move forward, try to suggest them to start with small steps and actions. You can share your vision of the situation and suggest a list of small steps and people who can help them overcome tough times.
2. Give the evidence of their success
If your partner’s things are not going well, try to provide an encouragement for them by offering a pep talk. You are the one who should remind them how wonderful and talented they are. You can give the example of their past accomplishments. Try to persuade them in their originality and abilities to make their dreams come true. This strategy will help you boost your partner’s self-confidence and self-esteem.
3. Find the reason
Try to determine the cause of your partner’s troubles. If it is possible, try to create a cozy atmosphere and find a suitable moment to talk to them and understand what is bothering them. When you know the reason, you can start on the emotional support instead of just criticizing and commenting that you see your beloved is changing in a bad way.
4. Don’t be importunate
When we want to help somebody, we should be careful enough not to put too much pressure on them. It is important to feel the line support and mental pressure. Your partner has the risk to get more stressed and annoyed if you bother them about something. I think no one likes pushy people, especially when you are surrounded by problems and want everyone to leave you alone.
5. Don’t praise too much
Praising your partner is one of the most significant things to motivate them to move on, but you should know when to stop. Too good isn’t good, too. When you are doing it all the time, they will find you insincere. Don’t gush too much about their goals and accomplishments. Just remind them about their advantages from time to time in order to give them a push to live happier.
6. Reward every attempt
It is very difficult to start doing something new and unknown, especially if you feel despondent and depressed during the hard times. When your partner achieves some results, you should show your happiness and appreciation. Enjoyable rewards make them more enthusiastic and relentless. When they see that their efforts and actions make you happy and meet your common needs, they will get an extremely high desire and motivation to become better. It is desirable not to blame your beloved with every little detail, because all your efforts to motivate them to be successful will be in vain.
7. Find something positive in their actions
If you have given your partner an advice to do certain small steps to go through hard times, you should feel responsibility for your actions and try to notice and accentuate all the good things that result from their actions and attempts. You can find different positive moments and changes in their deeds. If they go in for sports, you can remind how strong and wonderful they look.
Nowadays even strong and highly successful people can face problems and lose motivation. If you have a persistent desire to overcome all difficulties in your family life, you should be brave enough to face harsh realities of life and be a single whole despite of everything.
Moreover, you should support your partner if necessary. Have you ever tried any other effective ways to motivate your significant one? Share your tips with us please.
Source: womanitely.com

You have concluded that you want to be married. Great! But have you asked yourself why? There is nothing wrong with joining another in wedded bliss, but if your reasons are less than wholesome, you should stop yourself quickly. Getting married with the wrong motivations will have you headed for a disaster.
Here are 4 awful reasons to seek marriage.
1. “I wish I had someone to pay my bills.”
It’s true that a husband can provide and protect, but if this is your reason for wanting a husband you are in for a rude awakening. This is 2014 and the chances are good that a wife will match or out-earn her husband. Having a husband isn’t like winning the lottery and you are now going to be on a life-long shopping spree. It does, however, mean you now have someone to answer to about all financial decisions.
2. “It would be nice to have s*x regularly without guilt of committing a sin.”
Okay, this is a tricky one and should be looked at from a few different angles. You know the cliché about air not being that important until you’re not getting any? Well, s*x is kind of like that. It’s not that big a deal until you’re going without, but then the flip side is, it’s only good when you’re not under any obligation to do it.
As a married woman your body belongs to your husband and vice-versa. When two people are sexually compatible there should be minimal problems. But if they’re not, somebody is feeling used while the other is feeling cheated. Having s*x on a regular basis should never be a reason to get married because s*x alone cannot sustain the union.
3. “I’m tired of being alone.”
When people get married because of loneliness, it is a disaster waiting to happen. Marriage is never a cure for loneliness. In fact, there are plenty of married folks who are some of the loneliest people on the planet. When you’re lonely it is tempting to attach yourself to the first person that comes along. And having someone around who doesn’t get you and you don’t really get them is frustrating, to say the least, and leads to loneliness.
4. “I want to escape this miserable life I’m living.”
With this attitude, chances are good you’ll be jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Until you are complete and whole within yourself you are no good for a partnership. And believing that an escape into another life will rid you of your problems is unrealistic. Whatever your issues are now will most certainly still be your issues when your location and relationship status changes.
Are your reasons for wanting to marry having anything to do with the ministry of marriage? Or is it all for your own self-serving reasons? Society demonizes single people but don’t believe the hype. Yes, marriage is a huge responsibility filled with a lot of hard work, but can also be a wonderful experience.

If your partner gets you well enough to know your frozen yogurt preference, he or she can probably tell if you’re faking an climax.
According to a new study on s*xual satisfaction in longterm relationships, couples don’t necessarily need a post-coital question and answer session to know what’s working — as long as they are emotionally sensitive to each other’s cues.
Researchers at the University of Waterloo surveyed 84 heterosexual married or cohabitating couples about their “partners’ s*xual satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, quality of communication about s*xual issues within their relationships, and emotion recognition ability.” In general, both men and women perceived their partner’s satisfaction accurately. Contrary to what we might expect, men actually tended to underestimate their partners’ satisfaction, while women pretty much knew exactly how happy their partners were between the sheets.
But how do they know? s*xual communication is the most obvious way — if you ask your partner “Did you enjoy that?” and she says “No,” your perception of her satisfaction should be pretty spot on barring language barriers or pathological self-delusion. But what researchers called “emotion recognition ability” can also serve as a predictor of partner understanding. Where explicit communication about s*x was minimal, people who were highly sensitive to their partners’ emotions were still able to gauge their satisfaction fairly accurately.
Is this the s*xual parallel to “I want you to want to do the dishes”? Many of us don’t necessarily want to debrief our partners after every romp, but might still want them to know what worked and what didn’t. Interestingly, where s*xual communication was already strong and emotional sensitivity was added, perceptions of satisfaction didn’t change considerably. So while emotional intimacy can narrow the communication gap, talking it out seems to be the most effective route to mutual understanding.
To be sure, the findings don’t correlate level of communication and/or emotional intimacy with quality of s*x. You can have consciously lukewarm s*x with high emotional intimacy or great s*x with a stranger who’ll have no idea if you had a good time. But to the extent that a person’s s*xual satisfaction is enhanced or diminished based on his or her partner’s experience, that we can perceive each other’s enjoyment with or without words is confirmation that good s*x doesn’t always speak for itself.
Source: huffpost.com

Here are 10 ways to have the best s*x of your life … this year!
1) Try talking dirty. If you’re too embarrassed, make sure you have the lights off, then try it. You may find you love it!
2) Get yer motor running. Send your partner sexy text messages throughout the day. By the time he gets home, you’ll both be ready to crawl into bed.
3) Buy a new bra. I know, I know, everyone hates buying new bras – I do too. Here’s a sexy tip: bring your guy with you and let him pick one out for you.
4) Bust out the toys. s*x toys, I mean. Let your partner in on a little of the vibrator action and see how you both like it.
5) Strap on your high heels and give him a sexy lap dance the moment he walks in.
6) Mix it up. Take a bath together as foreplay, change positions often during s*x, use lubrication.
7) Share your fantasies with each other. You may be surprised by what REALLY gets each of your hearts beating fast.
8) Role-play. Like talking dirty, role-playing may seem a bit awkward and weird, but that’s just because you haven’t tried it. It’s a perfect addition to everyone’s s*x life.
9) Get kinky with some real handcuffs. If you don’t like being cuffed (or tied) to the bed, have him strap them on and take control of the situation.
10) Bust out the sweets. We all know how delicious chocolate and whipped cream are … so why not take them to bed? One piece of advice: get ready to get down, dirty, and sticky. You can shower off later – together.
Source: the stir

For most of the working world, the blaring of the alarm clock isn’t a happy sound. So why not turn that rude awakening into an er*tic opportunity with a roll in the 400-thread-count hay? After all, scientists say that people who start their days by having s*x are all-around healthier and happier than those who don’t.
“Having s*x in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving and bonded all day long,” says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. It makes you stronger and more beautiful too: Morning s*x can strengthen your immune system for the day by enhancing your levels of IgA, an antibody that protects against infection. And climaxing releases chemicals that boost levels of estrogen, which improves the tone and texture of your skin and hair.
Source: women shealthmag.com

Your washer-dryer breaks down. You go to the local store and the salesperson tells you that there are no washer-dryers available right now. They will be coming soon, but no one knows exactly when. You are then shown a range of washing machines and you consider whether you can make do without the drying feature. So much laundry is piled up at home and you need something now. The salesperson also claims that with this particular washing machine, you probably won’t need a dryer anyway. So you buy the washing machine, clear the laundry and all is well for three months, until the seasons change and it starts to rain every day. You then wish you had waited for the washer-dryer because what you have isn’t what you really wanted. And you do need a dryer even though you were told you wouldn’t need one. Well, the salesperson misled you, but you chose to believe him. Who Is to Blame Here?
Now lets apply what just happened to relationships. You are lonely. You dread holidays, you fear the future and maybe your biological clock is deafening you. You know what you want from a partner, but you never seem to meet anyone who ticks all the boxes. You want someone now. So along comes Mr. Unavailable. He may be married, have a girlfriend, have several girlfriends, carry emotional baggage or even have a personality disorder or alcohol or drug addiction. But he’s ready to fill that empty place in your life right now. You know that he isn’t really what you want, but you have been so lonely for so long and you have a deep fear that you will never find someone special.
So you take him home and begin a relationship (or at least that’s what you think it is). Everything is fine for the first 3 months. You are both trying to impress the other, you are both excited at having met someone new and you love the honeymoon period. All is wonderful. Then it gets shaky. He calls less, he backs off, he needs to spend time someplace else and you are wondering why this is happening. You then enter into a cycle of looking for answers. You change your own actions in an attempt to get back the guy you had for the first three months. You wonder when he will change, when he will leave his wife, why he doesn’t stop drinking, why he treats you so badly. When he led you to believe that he was going to be enough for you, he was misleading you, but you chose to believe him. Who Is to Blame Here?
The moral of this story is that if you enter into something, anything from purchasing a washing machine to starting a relationship, what you see is usually what you get. You enter into an agreement that accepts the terms as they stand at that time. That washing machine was never going to turn into a washer-dryer. You bought a washing machine and that’s exactly what you have. That married guy came to you with a wife. You accepted those terms – you agreed to those conditions. You started a relationship with a married man (attached, drunk, addicted, jobless) and that’s exactly what you have. Who is to blame here? The psychic who tells you that he has no intention of leaving his wife? The man who came to you married, told you he was married and can’t understand why it was ok then and now it’s not ok? What we have is often exactly what we agreed to – and we only have ourselves to blame.
Source: keen.com

Men, if you want to turn on your wife or partner, leave your wallet in your pocket and try doing this. Be a domestic guy. That’s right, in the words of one of my female colleagues, “Vacuuming and doing dishes are two of the sexiest things a guy can do.”
Being helpful around the house will go a long way in strengthening your loving relationship. This is because your wife or girlfriend will see you as attentive, loving, and committed. Yes, flowers and candlelight dinners have their place, too. Nice dinners and flowers, however, in the midst of you not helping ovBulletinut around the house, is like running the heat and the air conditioning at the same time: they just negate each other. Doing random, and, not-so-random, acts of kindness goes a long way in creating lasting love.
What this means is that if you do laundry and fold it from time to time, then you are really hitting above par. Doing domestic, caring acts around the house releases a chemical in both of you called, oxytocin. Oxytocin is the “love hormone” that also acts as a neurotransmitter. When you demonstrate your caring to your wife or girlfriend, this releases natures, aphrodisiac. Similarly, when you fill your wife’s car with gas without her asking you, this also produces a pulse of oxytocin release.
According to Psychology Today, “Oxytocin is a powerful hormone. When we hug or kiss a loved one, oxytocin levels drive up. It also acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. In fact, the hormone plays a huge role in pair bonding. Prairie voles, one of nature’s most monogamous species, produce oxytocin in spades. This hormone is also greatly stimulated during s*x, birth, chest feeding—the list goes on.”
Being a domestically active man is far more of a turn on than being a guy in denial. Especially if this means not picking up your dirty socks, laying around on the couch watching excessive amounts of sports, and not listening to your lady.
Expecting your lovely lady to be loving with you when you are not helping out around the house will not help your cause. So remember, being domestically attentive to the woman of your life goes a long way in fostering feelings of love. Don’t wait to be asked to clean up!
Do it on your own and do it because it is the right thing to do. And every morning, tell your wife or girlfriend that she looks beautiful and that you love her. Love is a precious commodity. Treasure your woman, treasure yourself, be a helpful partner at home, and treasure your love.

This man in his mid 40s has come out to publicly reveal his wife’s attitude towards s*x. He says she is never satisfied and he is wondering if he is the one with a problem.
Dear readers,
I have to clear my heart and let it out. I work in a company till late in the evening and the schedule is tight. I usually go home late. When I arrive and go to bed after evening meals, its usual to have three or four rounds with my wife after which I am tired and my manhood has shrunk. Don’t scold me, it’s the truth.
My wife is a s*x addict and she can’t get satisfied by a mere four rounds. She keeps on touching me, caressing all my body meaning she wants it till morning. To my disappointment my little man always refuses to wake up. She keeps on yawning all night.
But lately she has become angry with me because she says I am unable to satisfy her and I have neglected my duty as her husband. She wants to kill me with s*x. Its right but the problem is I don’t have that kind of energy and also I have to wake up very early and rush to work.
Please I need your advice. Do I have a problem? Or she is the one with an extreme desire. And I fear she is going to cheat on me as she looks for someone who can satisfy her.